Monday, October 16, 2017

Journey to EmbrACE who I am. (Part 1)


When I was in the first grade, I suffered an accident on the playground monkey bars during recess. I fell and landed in a straddled position on a step-bar. I believe, though I have never even considered this until recently, that I may have fractured my pubic bone as a result. There's no diagnosis to verify it, I don't think there can be after 45+ years, but….

The reason I mention this incident will become clear in future posts.

About a year later after my mom divorced an alcoholic dad. When I was in second grade she married another man who at first made my brother and I feel like we were the be all and end all of his existence. He made my mom feel that way, too. He wanted a family, or so we thought. Mostly he wanted child slaves and a woman he could control through fear.

He also wanted a child to 'play with'. Around the age of 7 began the cycle of a five-year sexual abuse scenario with a year off in between when my mom tried to leave this man the first time. It's a bit complicated time-wise. Let me clear things up.

Mom married this step-fucker (you've heard of step-monsters for step-mothers? My step-fathers don't deserve even THAT title. Step-fuckers is about right, yeah), in I believe it was 1971. I'm a bit confused as to the year due to loss of memory due to the traumas my brother and I experienced as a result of this man. We moved to Oklahoma from California about two weeks after they got married and it took us about a week to get to our destination. When we got there, it was during the last two weeks of school, which there was no point in enrolling my brother and I as we would only have had two weeks left of second grade for me. (Though we did attend Summer school during that year to make up for lost time during the move and missing the final two weeks of school.) My older brother would have been in fourth grade.

It was between 71 and 72 that my mom divorced Step-fucker #1 and we moved back to alcoholic biological father in Colorado Springs for a year. During this time at the age of 9, I suffered a severe horseback riding accident where I fell off a galloping horse and landed on my upper back and hit my head, causing a major concussion. I would later develop arthritis in the neck vertebrae resulting in what would be termed 'Military Neck', where the natural curve of the vertebrae disappears making the cervical vertebrae straight. Degenerating discs on top of this. The pain truly began in 1983 and has never stopped. Sometimes, thankfully very rarely, it gets so bad that it's like flame shooting up into my head and making me wish for death. I've suffered such levels of pain at least 4 times in my life since the onset of the condition. It's enough to become suicidal as NOTHING helps the pain to fade off except time. No pain killers, no bed rest, no NOTHING. As I said those instances are rare, but the chronic level of pain on a stage from 1-5 (5 being suicidal) I'm at a steady 3.

Ironically the only time I didn't feel any pain at all was the day after my first time ever getting drunk at the age of 52. My friend made sure I drank enough water to keep me from having a hangover the next morning. No hangover and absolutely NO PAIN. I can't tell you what THAT felt like. Unfortunately, by the time I went to bed the effects wore off and the pain returned, but for a day I was FREED. I've not gotten drunk since (I'm 54 now), but sometimes I do wish for the pain relieving effects of marijuana or Jack Daniels (plus water) to ward off the pain. I'm many times sorely tempted. 😉 

Mind you, this is all a background history to build up to other areas of my life, so hang in there… more to follow in future posts. Trust me, it's all leading up to REVELATIONS and not the kind from the Bible. 😊 To be continued….










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